Woman fears her ex-parther sentenced for breaches of a non-molestation order today at Nottingham Crown Court will never leave her alone

A woman says words spoken on behalf of her ex-partner in court provide yet another example of his delusions their relationship can be rekindled.

The woman says she doesn’t believe her ex, Dominic Tilley, will ever leave her alone, despite spending 40 days on remand before being sentenced for five breaches of a non-molestation order through stalking.

The woman, who has asked to remain anonymous, said after Tilley’s sentencing at Nottingham Crown Court, she is back to living in fear and expects to both see and hear from him again.

She said: “He’s already said he’d go to prison rather than stop contacting me, and I don’t see how anything has changed.”

The woman went to court to obtain the order after Tilley refused to accept the relationship was over, and continued to contact her.

Describing a relationship that was a like a whirlwind after they met on social media, she said: “It happened really quickly. Pretty much straight away he told me ‘I love you’. He’d moved in within a couple of weeks and within five months I was pregnant.

“To begin with it was fun and a relationship that made me happy – but that was the honeymoon period.”

“As soon as I was pregnant he became controlling. To me, it was quite sudden. He completely changed. He started to dictate what I could wear, what I could eat, how to be pregnant - even though I had two children already,” she claimed.

“When the baby was born he started to dictate what I could and couldn’t buy for him, what he could eat. He’d say I had no parenting skills and was a bad mum - always riding me down.”

The woman tried to end the relationship several times, but said she felt manipulated into taking him back.

“Silly me, I took him back; even though the police were now involved, she said: “In March I said to myself that I had to end it for good. The Friday came and I didn’t pick him up from work. I packed his stuff for him. It was over.”

After getting the non-molestation order, the only contact allowed between the parents was in the event of an emergency relating to the child. When the child became ill and there was a risk of hospitalisation, the mother reached out. She said Tilley took that as an indication she wanted to be reconciled, and he started texting.

“In May I resorted to contacting the police again as he wouldn’t give up, and I changed my number,” she said: “He flipped out and resorted to constantly emailing me and turned up at the house. He’d already been arrested twice for breaches of the order and then a third just after he was released.”

The court was told Tilley emailed her more than 100 times.

Of the affects of her two-year relationship, she said: “I ended up going off sick from work, take anti-depressants, I have counselling and talking therapies.

“I’m wary of relationships going forward. I don’t think I’ll ever trust another man again. The thought of him being released fills me full of dread. I don’t think he’ll ever give up. All I wanted was an amicable split.”

Tilley, 27, pleaded guilty at Nottingham Magistrates’ Court to five breaches of the order.

At sentencing Lauren Fisher, prosecuting, said Tilley’s behaviour had been more menacing than nuisance.

In mitigation after a short first meeting with his client, barrister Digby Johnson said: “This is a couple who plainly loved each other and want to be a couple on some level.”

Mr Johnson said there was a chance they would reconcile in the future and the woman had asked about a prison visiting order.

Judge James Sampson sentenced Tilley to a 12-month community order, with rehabilitation and 50 hours of unpaid work, giving credit for his guilty pleas, previous good character and glowing references.

Of Tilley’s instructions to his defence, the victim said: “What rubbish. Why on earth would I go through all of this and then want to get back with him. It’s just another example of how deluded he is and why he won’t leave me alone. I never asked for a visitor order and have no wish to see him.”